Mission impossible: how to survive family?

We've all heard stories from shop assistants about the phenomenon of families and happy couples; crazy dramas and funny stories while choosing a dress, fights because of the guests list and the budget. Those stories seem being never-ending. 

In today's post I would like to share with You some golden rules how to survive with your parents while wedding preparations. 


1. A dress

Are Your parents paying for a dress? If so, I think it's obvious that You're going to involve Your mother in choosing the right gown. We all have different tastes and mostly mothers want something different for their daughters than daughters that are brides-to-be want for themselves.

Tips:
You really would love to take Your mother for wedding dress hunting but don't want to discuss details and end up fighting. Do the 'pre-work'. Firstly, go shopping alone or take with You a person (a best friend, a wedding planner, a fashion adviser, etc.) that understands what You are really looking for (this will be mostly Your peer). As soon as You know what You want, invite Your mother to shop with You and ask her what she thinks. It might happen that You really like two or three dresses and just can't decide which one is the right one. Such a situation is a great opportunity to involve Your mother (and make her feel important) in decision-making.


2. Invitations


Money plays a huge role in here as well. Who pays? If at least a part of the invitations is paid by somebody else than You and Your partner, You must take into consideration his/ her/ their opinion. People that pay for Your wedding preparation might request being on the top of the guests list or being seated near the bride and the groom.

Tips:
There's no point of making a drama because of invitations. I totally understand that You want to pick up the most beautiful ones but if somebody else is paying let them choose or at least comprise with them. Most of Your guests won't keep Your invitations forever so don't make a big deal about it.

3. The ceremony

There's always a family member in every family or a friend that really likes showing off with his/ her "wedding planning" skills (without having any experience). They might be truly talented and willing to help so why You don't involve them in some small area of all the planning process.

Tips:
It's naturally Your wedding and You've been dreaming about this day since You were 5 and obviously You want to make it Your way. If there's somebody that desperately wants to help You out, ask him/ her to pick up 10 great songs for the DJ/ band or  to come up with some funny games/ activities for Your guests or to prepare one of the speeches. This will make him/ her feel important and You'll save some energy for other things.